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Monday, November 23, 2009
Marriage
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking... I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for
the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not
young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the every day workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.... To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and
hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms,walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office..... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind....I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not
want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in
themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.
Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking... I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for
the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not
young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the every day workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.... To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and
hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms,walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office..... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind....I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not
want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in
themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.
Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Sad but true
I DON'T SAY YOU CHEAT BUT YOU FORWARD TO ANYONE FOR A LESSON:
You may or may not believe it but the truth is it happened or its happening to be precise. There are lessons to be learned here just take time to read this little few passages they might save your life or a friends life.
My friend has been married for 5 years now. They have a 2 year little daughter. Like any other couple they do have their ups and downs, any way that's life. One day just after they had a fight over differences of opinion, the wife was doing her normal shopping at their local mall, when she met her long time varsity ex-boy friend. After a chit-chat, she discovered that he is doing well for himself and he is running quite a few tenders under his company. They exchanged numbers, from that day they started talking over the phone until plans were made to meet but how?
That's when the varsity boyfriend came with the plan that they should meet in Cape Town to spend a week together. She had to lie to her husband and claim she is going to a work conference at Cape Town for a week. Which she did and her husband took her to the airport on a Sunday. The ex-boyfriend had everything organized; the plane ticket and a nice beach holiday resort for both of them to enjoy. She left on Sunday evening to Cape town and arrived 2 hours later to a very romantic evening with her ex-boyfriend.
After the evening romance they made love but without a condom, off course they have known each other for a long time she thought. For the next days to come they had such a jool/ quad biking, cable riding. wining and dining at top restaurants and cafe's, something she hardly do with her husband.
They enjoyed everything money can buy until she left on Saturday back to Joburg. They had to use different flights to avoid being seen together (u know people talk). She was waiting for her husband to come and fetch her when she received a call from her ex-boyfriend. He told her that he was HIV-positive and the whole thing was not a co-incident when they met at the mall. The reason why he infected her with the disease was because he was jealous of the family she has and the beautiful woman she has become and the fact that he was financially successful but he is not happy because he knows that he is dying. At that moment she just stood there and froze.
Thinking what do I do now because it was already too late to take anti-retro viral. even if she lay a charge against him, it will only be but to expose herself for cheating her husband.
That's when she quickly took a taxi to her friends place. She told her friend everything that has just happened and ask for advice. Her friend told her to come clean with her man and tell the truth, anyway she has just lost everything and nothing to lose anymore. Which she did over the phone.
To my surprise even today. The husband went to fetch his wife at her friends place, he sat down with her and told her how much he loves her and reminded her of the vows he took at church with her and that it was a
terrible mistake she has done which unfortunately she has to pay with her life. He told her that he is never going to leave her, he has forgiven her and he will stick by her side no matter what comes.
Off-course she had to stay in another bedroom and he had to share the bed room with their little daughter.
What's currently happening is that, the wife is terribly sick she might die anytime. He told me this because he was asking me for prayer support) because he believes as a group of friends praying together, the stronger
the prayer might be. And the other reason was that I should let u guys know of such happenings as a warning to those who are contemplating cheating to weigh if its worth it! As I sit down and think about this experience, I thought to my self: why him? But I cannot seem to come with an answer. Then it stroke me that maybe there are lessons here;" You never know what you got until....".
The morale of the story being, As people we turn to undermine those who love us for a moments pleasure. We keep on chasing waterfalls rather than sticking to the rivers where we can swim with ease. to my brothers and sisters love the one you are with.
Amen to that.
You may or may not believe it but the truth is it happened or its happening to be precise. There are lessons to be learned here just take time to read this little few passages they might save your life or a friends life.
My friend has been married for 5 years now. They have a 2 year little daughter. Like any other couple they do have their ups and downs, any way that's life. One day just after they had a fight over differences of opinion, the wife was doing her normal shopping at their local mall, when she met her long time varsity ex-boy friend. After a chit-chat, she discovered that he is doing well for himself and he is running quite a few tenders under his company. They exchanged numbers, from that day they started talking over the phone until plans were made to meet but how?
That's when the varsity boyfriend came with the plan that they should meet in Cape Town to spend a week together. She had to lie to her husband and claim she is going to a work conference at Cape Town for a week. Which she did and her husband took her to the airport on a Sunday. The ex-boyfriend had everything organized; the plane ticket and a nice beach holiday resort for both of them to enjoy. She left on Sunday evening to Cape town and arrived 2 hours later to a very romantic evening with her ex-boyfriend.
After the evening romance they made love but without a condom, off course they have known each other for a long time she thought. For the next days to come they had such a jool/ quad biking, cable riding. wining and dining at top restaurants and cafe's, something she hardly do with her husband.
They enjoyed everything money can buy until she left on Saturday back to Joburg. They had to use different flights to avoid being seen together (u know people talk). She was waiting for her husband to come and fetch her when she received a call from her ex-boyfriend. He told her that he was HIV-positive and the whole thing was not a co-incident when they met at the mall. The reason why he infected her with the disease was because he was jealous of the family she has and the beautiful woman she has become and the fact that he was financially successful but he is not happy because he knows that he is dying. At that moment she just stood there and froze.
Thinking what do I do now because it was already too late to take anti-retro viral. even if she lay a charge against him, it will only be but to expose herself for cheating her husband.
That's when she quickly took a taxi to her friends place. She told her friend everything that has just happened and ask for advice. Her friend told her to come clean with her man and tell the truth, anyway she has just lost everything and nothing to lose anymore. Which she did over the phone.
To my surprise even today. The husband went to fetch his wife at her friends place, he sat down with her and told her how much he loves her and reminded her of the vows he took at church with her and that it was a
terrible mistake she has done which unfortunately she has to pay with her life. He told her that he is never going to leave her, he has forgiven her and he will stick by her side no matter what comes.
Off-course she had to stay in another bedroom and he had to share the bed room with their little daughter.
What's currently happening is that, the wife is terribly sick she might die anytime. He told me this because he was asking me for prayer support) because he believes as a group of friends praying together, the stronger
the prayer might be. And the other reason was that I should let u guys know of such happenings as a warning to those who are contemplating cheating to weigh if its worth it! As I sit down and think about this experience, I thought to my self: why him? But I cannot seem to come with an answer. Then it stroke me that maybe there are lessons here;" You never know what you got until....".
The morale of the story being, As people we turn to undermine those who love us for a moments pleasure. We keep on chasing waterfalls rather than sticking to the rivers where we can swim with ease. to my brothers and sisters love the one you are with.
Amen to that.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Monday, October 26, 2009
90/10 Principle
Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life
It will change your life
(at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90%of life is decided by how you react.
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90%of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? The way you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Daily Survival Kit
Today, I am giving you a
DAILY SURVIVAL KIT
to help you each day............
Toothpick ... to remind you to pick the good qualities in everyone,including yourself.
Rubber band... to remind you to be flexible. Things might not always go the way you want, but it can be worked out.
Band-Aid .... to remind you to heal hurt feelings, either yours or someone else's.
Eraser .... to remind you everyone makes mistakes. That's okay, we learn by our errors.
Candy Kiss... to remind you everyone needs a hug or a compliment everyday.
Mint ... to remind you that you are worth a mint to your family & Me.
Bubble Gum... to remind you to stick with it and you can accomplish anything.
Pencil ... to remind you to list your blessings every day.
Tea Bag .... to remind you to take time to relax daily and go over that list of God's blessings.
This is what makes life worth living every minute, every day
Wishing you love, gratitude, friends to cherish, caring, sharing, laughter, music, and warm feelings in your heart.
I know this kit will help you get through the day.
DAILY SURVIVAL KIT
to help you each day............
Toothpick ... to remind you to pick the good qualities in everyone,including yourself.
Rubber band... to remind you to be flexible. Things might not always go the way you want, but it can be worked out.
Band-Aid .... to remind you to heal hurt feelings, either yours or someone else's.
Eraser .... to remind you everyone makes mistakes. That's okay, we learn by our errors.
Candy Kiss... to remind you everyone needs a hug or a compliment everyday.
Mint ... to remind you that you are worth a mint to your family & Me.
Bubble Gum... to remind you to stick with it and you can accomplish anything.
Pencil ... to remind you to list your blessings every day.
Tea Bag .... to remind you to take time to relax daily and go over that list of God's blessings.
This is what makes life worth living every minute, every day
Wishing you love, gratitude, friends to cherish, caring, sharing, laughter, music, and warm feelings in your heart.
I know this kit will help you get through the day.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
FUNDAMENTAL ENGLISH
A Polish man moved to the USA and married an American girl. Although his English was far from perfect, they got along very well until one day he rushed into a lawyer's office and asked him if he could arrange a divorce for him.The lawyer said that getting a divorce would depend on the circumstances, and asked him the following questions:
Have you any grounds?
Yes, an acre and half and nice little home.
No, I mean what is the foundation of this case?
It made of concrete.
I don't think you understand. Does either of you have a real grudge?
No, we have carport, and not need one.
I mean. What are your relations like?
All my relations still in Poland.
Is there any infidelity in your marriage?
We have hi-fidelity stereo and good DVD player.
Does your wife beat you up?
No, I always up before her.
Is your wife a nagger?
No, she white.
Why do you want this divorce?
She going to kill me.
What makes you think that?
I got proof.
What kind of proof?
She going to poison me. She buy a bottle at drugstore and put on shelf in bathroom. I can read, and it say: 'Polish Remover'.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Laugh out Loud - WHOSE COKE IS IT…?
A Man and his wife are in court getting a divorce. The problem was who should get custody of the child. The wife jumped up and said, "Your Honour, I brought the child into the world with pain and labour. She should be in my custody". The judge turns to the husband and says "What do you have to say in your defence?" The man sat for a while contemplating. Then slowly rose.
"Your Honour, if I put a Rand in a vending machine and a Coke comes out, Whose Coke is it, the machines' or mine?"
A Story To Live By
There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.
She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.
He was always there for her.
She told her boyfriend,
'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her.
When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'
The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.
The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.
She hadn't expected that.
The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying:
'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before,
and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Life Is a Gift
Today before you say an unkind word
She told her boyfriend,
'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her.
When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'
The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.
The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.
She hadn't expected that.
The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying:
'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before,
and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Life Is a Gift
Today before you say an unkind word
- Think of someone who can't speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food
Before you complain about the taste of your food
- Think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife
Before you complain about your husband or wife
- Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.
Today before you complain about life
Today before you complain about life
- Think of someone who died too early on this earth.
Before you complain about your children
Before you complain about your children
- Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep
- Think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive
Before whining about the distance you drive
- Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job
And when you are tired and complain about your job
- Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
- Remember that not one of us is without sin.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
- Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
How to take care of your wife:
In the world, one single rule applies to the men: Make the Woman happy. Do something she likes, and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.
Here is a guide to the point system:
SIMPLE DUTIES
Here is a guide to the point system:
SIMPLE DUTIES
-- You make the bed (+1)
-- You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
-- You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
-- You go out to buy her what she wants (+5)
-- In the rain (+8)
-- But return with Beer (-5)
-- You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
-- You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
-- It's her pet (-10)
-- You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
-- You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
-- You go out to buy her what she wants (+5)
-- In the rain (+8)
-- But return with Beer (-5)
-- You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
-- You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
-- It's her pet (-10)
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
-- You stay by her side the entire party (0)
-- You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
-- Named Tina (-4)
-- Tina is a dancer (-10)
-- You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
-- Named Tina (-4)
-- Tina is a dancer (-10)
-- You take her out to dinner (0)
-- You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
-- Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
-- And it's all-you-can- eat night (-3)
-- It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can- eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)
-- You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
-- Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
-- And it's all-you-can- eat night (-3)
-- It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can- eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)
-- You take her to a movie (+2)
-- You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
-- You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
-- You take her to a movie you like (-2)
-- It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
-- You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)
-- You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
-- You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
-- You take her to a movie you like (-2)
-- It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
-- You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy Hawaiian shirts (-30)
-- You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy Hawaiian shirts (-30)
-- You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)
-- She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
-- You hesitate in responding (-10)
-- You reply, "Where?" (-35)
-- Any other response (-20)
-- You hesitate in responding (-10)
-- You reply, "Where?" (-35)
-- Any other response (-20)
-- When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned _____expression (0)
-- You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
-- You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
-- She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)
-- You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
-- You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
-- She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)
Used VS Loved
THIS IS TOO GOOD TO BE MISSED, IN THE TIMES WE ARE
LIVING,WHERE MATERIAL IS OVERTAKEN HUMANITY!
Used vs. Loved
While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father, with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?' The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.
Devastated by his own actions, sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .
Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life.... Things are to be used and people are to be loved, but the problem in today's world is that, people are used and things are loved...
During this year, let's be careful to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, but People are to be loved... Be yourself, this is the only day we HAVE.
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder. God bless you; I hope you are having a wonderful day! If you don't pass this on to anybody, nothing bad will happen; if you do, you will have ministered to someone. The Will of God will never take you to where the Grace of God will not PROTECT you...
Stay FAITHFUL and Be GRATEFUL
Used VS Loved
THIS IS TOO GOOD TO BE MISSED, IN THE TIMES WE ARE
LIVING,WHERE MATERIAL IS OVERTAKEN HUMANITY!
Used vs. Loved
While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father, with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?' The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.
Devastated by his own actions, sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .
Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life.... Things are to be used and people are to be loved, but the problem in today's world is that, people are used and things are loved...
During this year, let's be careful to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, but People are to be loved... Be yourself, this is the only day we HAVE.
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder. God bless you; I hope you are having a wonderful day! If you don't pass this on to anybody, nothing bad will happen; if you do, you will have ministered to someone. The Will of God will never take you to where the Grace of God will not PROTECT you...
Stay FAITHFUL and Be GRATEFUL
Monday, September 28, 2009
Who Does Not Have Eyes To See
THE FINAL BATTLE IS NEAR... JOEL3:2 & EZEKIEL 38 and 39 REVELATION 16:12-18 REVELATION 19:11,
And I saw heaven opened, and behold a white horse; and he that sat upon him [was] called Faithful and True, and in righteousness he doth judge and make war.12,His eyes [were] as a flame of fire, and on his head [were] many crowns; and he had a name written, that no man knew, but he himself.13,And he [was] clothed with a vesture dipped in blood:
and his name is called The Word of God
14,And the armies [which were] in heaven followed him upon white horses, clothed in fine linen, white and clean,
15 aAnd out of his mouth goeth a sharp sword, that with it he should smite the nations: and he shall rule them with a rod of iron: and he treadeth the winepress of the fierceness and wrath of Almighty God,
16 And he hath on his vesture and on his thigh a name written, KING OF KINGS & LORD OF LORDS.
ALSO READ, ZECHERIAH 12-14
Survivors
CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO WERE BORN IN THE
1920's, 30's 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's and 80's !
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.
Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking!!!
As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.
Riding in the back of a Bakkie on a warm day was always a special treat.
We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds, KFC, Steers, Nandos.
Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn't open on the weekends, somehow we didn't starve to death!
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.
We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy Chappies, Wilson 's Toffees, Wicks Bubble Gum and some crackers to blow up frogs with.
We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because......
WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.
No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.
We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and cubby houses and played in river beds with matchbox cars.
We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on DSTV, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!
We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no Lawsuits from these accidents.
Only girls had pierced ears!
We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.
You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time.......no really!
We were given pellet guns and catapults for our 10th birthdays!!
We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!
Mum didn't have to go to work to help dad make ends meet!
RUGBY and CRICKET had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT AND NOT DUE TO BLACKMAIL, THREATS AND GUILT FROM THE PAST..... strange but true!
Our teachers used to belt us with big sticks and leather staps and bully'salways ruled the playground at school.
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!
Our parents didn't invent stupid names for their kids like "Kiora" and "Blade" and "Ridge" and "Vanilla"
This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!
The past 70 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO
DEAL WITH IT ALL!
And YOU are one of them!
CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.
And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.
PS -The big type is because your eyes are not too good at your age anymore
Survivors
CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO WERE BORN IN THE
1920's, 30's 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's and 80's !
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.
Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking!!!
As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.
Riding in the back of a Bakkie on a warm day was always a special treat.
We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds, KFC, Steers, Nandos.
Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn't open on the weekends, somehow we didn't starve to death!
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.
We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy Chappies, Wilson 's Toffees, Wicks Bubble Gum and some crackers to blow up frogs with.
We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because......
WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.
No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.
We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and cubby houses and played in river beds with matchbox cars.
We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on DSTV, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!
We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no Lawsuits from these accidents.
Only girls had pierced ears!
We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.
You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time.......no really!
We were given pellet guns and catapults for our 10th birthdays!!
We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!
Mum didn't have to go to work to help dad make ends meet!
RUGBY and CRICKET had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT AND NOT DUE TO BLACKMAIL, THREATS AND GUILT FROM THE PAST..... strange but true!
Our teachers used to belt us with big sticks and leather staps and bully'salways ruled the playground at school.
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!
Our parents didn't invent stupid names for their kids like "Kiora" and "Blade" and "Ridge" and "Vanilla"
This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!
The past 70 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO
DEAL WITH IT ALL!
And YOU are one of them!
CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.
And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.
PS -The big type is because your eyes are not too good at your age anymore
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
WORK, WINE & BEER
The Centre for Disease Control has issued a medical alert about a highly contagious, potentially dangerous virus that is transmitted orally, by hand, and even electronically. This virus is called Weary Overload Recreational Killer (WORK). If you receive WORK from your boss, any of your colleagues, or anyone else via any means whatsoever - DO NOT TOUCH IT. This virus will wipe out your private life completely.
If you should come into contact with WORK you should immediately leave the premises. Take two good friends to the nearest store and purchase one of the following antidotes - Work Isolating Neutralizer Extract (WINE) and Bothersome Employer Elimination Rebooter (BEER). Take the antidote repeatedly until WORK has been completely eliminated from your system. Work Extractor Eliminating Dosages(WEED) helps too (this is obtainable from selected outlets only)!!
If you should come into contact with WORK you should immediately leave the premises. Take two good friends to the nearest store and purchase one of the following antidotes - Work Isolating Neutralizer Extract (WINE) and Bothersome Employer Elimination Rebooter (BEER). Take the antidote repeatedly until WORK has been completely eliminated from your system. Work Extractor Eliminating Dosages(WEED) helps too (this is obtainable from selected outlets only)!!
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Life Lessons- 7% (Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio)
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons lifetaught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the columnonce more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone...
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree todisagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up thepresent.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no ideawhat their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't bein it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don'tworry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful orjoyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But thesecond one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life,don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancylingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion, Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wearpurple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In fiveyears, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone and everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because ofanything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyoneelse's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
It's estimated that 93% of people who receive this email won'tforward it. If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with thetitle '7%'. I'm in the 7%. Remember, friends are the family we choosefor ourselves
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the columnonce more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone...
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree todisagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up thepresent.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no ideawhat their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't bein it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don'tworry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful orjoyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But thesecond one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life,don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancylingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion, Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wearpurple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In fiveyears, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone and everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because ofanything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyoneelse's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
It's estimated that 93% of people who receive this email won'tforward it. If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with thetitle '7%'. I'm in the 7%. Remember, friends are the family we choosefor ourselves
Monday, September 14, 2009
Haters (Maya Angelou)
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...
That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...
It's dangerous to be like somebody else...
If God wanted you to be like somebody else,
He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence,
you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We've all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man/woman to hit the curb (if he/she isn't about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home
Haters can't stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are (VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled my dreams, Now I'm ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at who is in charge of me...'
If you don't get it back, maybe you called somebody out! Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs. Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters...BUT most of all don't become a HATER!
Friday, September 4, 2009
A young soul
A young soul in my ageing body plays, Though time’s sharp blades my weary visage raze.
***
Hard biter in a toothless mouth is she, The will may wane, but she a winner stays.
***
Spare me to win glory’s forbidden prize, Glory in hardship, sloth in comfort lies.
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Em’nence is not with cheap comfort bought, Hear the honey gath’rers bee-stung cries
***
No indolent dreaming dawdler am I, Nor am content, while riches I descry.
***
Life’s heaving tides of woe shall spare me not, Unless I, its unblocked courses defy
***
Softly do town girls their faces adorn, But Bedu are from garish colours shorn.
***
Town beauty is with pampered softness sought, The Bedu are with unsought beauty born.
***
Grave harm have lovers to themselves done, Loving, ere understanding life begun.
***
They, with with’ered and wasted souls, After vile, though pretty-faced creatures run.
***
Beauti’ful women, as experienced men know, Are but darkness wrapped in dazzling light aglow.
***
A life of friv’lous youth and worried age, Its futile course to futile death will flow
***
When my hands from brimming cups weakly shook, I awoke, ere sense my wined mind forsook.
***
Shunning choice wines, as rich as purest gold, I, of spring showers silv’ry draught partook.
***
Secrets I keep no companion can discern, Nor to it can wine its potent way burn.
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Soft women I have for an hour, and then, Deserts I roam, never more to return.
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Courage to reason second place must take, For valour should not balanced judgment shake.
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But if both in a hard soul united are, Then Glory’s realms their own demesne shall make.
***
Defiantly live, or in honour die, Midst slashing blades and banners flapping high
***
Rage is best dispatched by lances’ points, and Spearing spiteful chests shall their spite deny.
***
Face with cool, carefree calm life’s caretorn climes, As long as your soul with its body chimes.
***
Your joys of yore have passed beyond recall, And sadness can summon not bygone times.
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A charger’s saddle is an exalted throne, The best companions are books alone.
***
Without hardship everyone would prevail, The generous are poor, and courage kills its own.
***
One’s ill-conduct brooding mistrust will breed, For dark thoughts on darker suspicions feed.
***
Sland’ring friends with what foes have slandered one, Thus in black nights of doubt one’s life will lead.
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Fie’ry rashness may as valour be seen, And nervous anger may cowardice mean.
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Arms are carried by people everywhere, But not all claws are lion’s, nor as keen.
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Cowards see vapid impotence as sense, Such is treacherous villainy’s defense.
***
Each of valour’s divers forms enriches, But valiant wisdom is of worth immense.
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Our dead we mourn, though we very well know, That but Vanity they leave ere they go.
***
Reflection upon life’s hard course shall teach, ‘Tis one to die as be slain by a foe.
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Shoreless you would be of you were a sea. If rain, earth unable to contain ye.
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Country and people of you I could warn, Of that which only Noah could foresee.
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Misfortune’s arrows do upon me rain, Countless arrowheads does my heart sustain.
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As more shafts at my studded heart fly, Steel upon Steel shatters the hardy twain.
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At times in Bedu tents a home I find, Often, home is atop the camel’s hind,
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My body a target for the brigand’s lance, To scorching heat my aching face unbind.
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Though a noble lady and highly born, ‘Tis your unfeminine wisdom we mourn.
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True spirit is from softer self distilled, As potent wine from sweeter grapes is drawn.
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By AL-MUTANNABI (915 To 965)
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